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Understanding the Unpredictable Dynamics of Friendships for Late-Diagnosed Autistic Women

Let's have a quick dive into the statistics surrounding women with autism who are undiagnosed. Recent studies reveal that by the age of 18, a staggering 80% of females are still wandering through life without an autism diagnosis or an accurate diagnosis. This could lead to not fully understanding their identity, affecting their ability to navigate adulthood with autism and limiting their potential to develop healthy strategies to cope effectively with friendships and relation

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Meeting the Parents as an Autistic Asian: It Is "Not" What It Is

Warning: This article contains no amazing tips or tricks for meeting the parents; instead, it is an honest account of lived experiences, mishaps, and lessons that might resonate with those in similar situations. Free Yourself from Unrealistic Expectations for Meeting the Parents The first thing I’d like to address is that there’s no perfect encounter when it comes to meeting the parents or, for that matter, any significant individual in our lives. So, let’s not set ourselves

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Language Matters In Autistic Healthcare Experience

"Sounds like you have depression." "You have autism." "It's autism symptoms." "You are angry." "You have anxiety." "Autism is a mental health issue." "Maybe you are just clumsy because of your autism disorder." That’s strange. Neglect or Disrespect? Why Not Both! These are the inappropriate and often dismissive phrases I hear repeatedly from healthcare providers since I sought help for my injury over a year ago. This ongoing experience has been relentlessly frustrating, part

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Accessing Healthcare Should Not be Dehumanising for Autistic People

Why would seeking help from the healthcare system leave us feeling worse than we initially felt? This question resonates deeply, particularly within the autistic community, where the pursuit of medical help frequently results in feelings of dismissal, alienation, misunderstanding, being undermined, and despair. We autistic people encounter substantial and preventable barriers in the healthcare system, and the allistic society often deflects accountability by implying that aut

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Facing Systemic Ableism as an Autistic Woman: The Hidden Cost of Keeping Peace

There are countless situations in life that unfold beyond our control, leading us to feel powerless and vulnerable repeatedly. In such moments, it can seem as though our basic human rights are stripped away, leaving us feeling exploited and dehumanised. For the past year, I've been struggling with this overwhelming sense of helplessness and systemic ableism as an autistic woman of colour, which unfortunately continue to plague my everyday existence. This experience marks the

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Welcome to Beyond Quirky, where I spill the everyday musings, perspectives, and insights as an autistic Asian woman living in two worlds—Asian and Western cultures. I advocate for autistic perspectives, share my lived experiences, differences, challenges, and the advantages of my autistic and bicultural identity. This is an autism community to explore living an authentic autistic life—a whimsical guide to navigating the quirks of existence, with a side of humour, of course!

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I recommend this amazing podcast to my fellow aliens: Meet My Autistic Brain by The Autistic Woman. I discovered the talented creator of this podcast, which has helped me recognise my recent experience with autistic burnout and shutdown. This has been especially helpful, considering the many difficulties I've faced in the past year and continue to navigate through the turmoil.

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